dude, I don't know you - and I have my own problems of a similar ilk with one particular woman at the moment, so I feel your pain... but let me tell you one thing that I continually learn, and relearn over and over again when it comes to women...

lean back. don't worry about comparing yourself to another guy, don't change anything about yourself... just busy yourself with other things, take your mind of her, and the situation, dont pay her as much attention as you usually would, go out with your mates (pref. female) and watch her crawl to you.

I recently professed my feelings to a girl... got no reaction, haven't initiated conversation with her since, and the reaction is amazing... treat them mean and keep them keen... you are the prize mate, not her, so don't put her on a pedestal.

it's much easier to dish out advice than listen to it yourself!

best of luck buddy.

dude, I don't know you - and I have my own problems of a similar ilk with one particular woman at the moment, so I feel your pain... but let me tell you one thing that I continually learn, and relearn over and over again when it comes to women...

lean back. don't worry about comparing yourself to another guy, don't change anything about yourself... just busy yourself with other things, take your mind of her, and the situation, dont pay her as much attention as you usually would, go out with your mates (pref. female) and watch her crawl to you.

I recently professed my feelings to a girl... got no reaction, haven't initiated conversation with her since, and the reaction is amazing... treat them mean and keep them keen... you are the prize mate, not her, so don't put her on a pedestal.

it's much easier to dish out advice than listen to it yourself!

best of luck buddy.

you get a double post to reiterate the point

The problem with making yourself or even another person a 'prize' is that, prizes are for the most part very boring once won. I mean, what can you really do with a trophy?

To the question, "Which traits are more positive?"

The answer is, of course, that it's a personal thing and the fact that she needs to weigh them for any period of time means she weighs them close together, or she likes one of your personality's better but the other guy is hotter, or something. I don't know. Indecisiveness is something that I would want to stay away from. The next step in indecisiveness is to decide and then change your mind, possibly repeatedly.

If I knew how women work I'd be a much happier man. Also, I wouldn't be single.

All I can do is wish you good luck, Costlow. Women are the constant strain on our sanity.

~Zoo

The thing that you've got to understand is that it's not a question of comparing notes about each of you. She's not going to sit with her notebook saying 'Mr Costlow is very extrovert but Mr Buyless is more confident in his extrovert nature. I think that Mr Buyless won that round. Now, let's look at their shoelace tying skills...'

It doesn't work like that. It's not about lining up your attributes, it's about attraction and, basically, chemistry. I know people who, in theory, would be fantastic together but they don't work because the chemistry isn't there. I'm not sure that chemistry can be created, I think that it's either there or it's not - at least that's the case in my experience. You can, however, build on so-so chemistry and make it into something a bit more special.

We (women, I mean) aren't really complicated, we're just more emotional than men (and when I say that I mean that we're not afraid to show or deal with our emotions). We like to talk about things. Men are more fix-it-rather-than-talk-about-it, and I think that's where the 'confusion' part comes into play, I think. Maybe listening to her talk and engaging in some conversation with her might give you an edge with her?

Make sense?

Hehe! It doesn't seem to matter anymore, up until late last night I had been just simply hanging out with her waiting to see how things went but I guess she got tired of me being so slow so she plopped my arm around her and basically told me that she didn't need anymore time to think it over...

*cue smile from ear to ear*

the relationship hasn't been confirmed as of yet as an official relationship but I'll get on that tonight on the phone.

Women aren't complicated. That's a lie they themselves perpetuate as an excuse for why they act so coldly rational. Here's the essential point:

Women do what is in their best interest.

For example, if you convince one you are a professional baller (hard to do if you are a skinny nerd), she will want to have sex with you so she can have a professional baller for a kid.

Basically, your best defense against womens' "complication" is the good old fashion lie.

Of course, this is coming from a very unsuccessful guy.

<--- Gods aren't also always professional ballers.

I am, always have and always will be a sucker for women. It's probably the only thing I have above my love for computers. But here is one thing I have learned thru out the years. Be yourself, if a person can not love you for who you are then there is no point. if she is truly meant for you, she will come around. And as you put it, apparently she has.

To listen to suggestions such as the first comment is to be something you are not. there is no such thing as being a prize and one should never expect the person one will share you love with to have to come crawling to you. especially a woman. That is just demeaning. If there's something the, the attraction will be mutual and all the pieces will fall in their places all by themselves. The real problem here is lack of patience. Not wanting to wait, which is usually what screws everything up. Take your time, there is no rush. Enjoy life, with or without her. If you get her, than enjoy it even more.

Ok man. Unless she's retarded, you probably don't want to throw the dice on marriage. It's an unnecessary risk. Marriage is something women use to sink their teeth into a better life, your better life.

Have sex with her. Get as close as you'd like. But dear lord! Don't marry her. Next thing you know you'll be out on the streets busting your butt to make the x-wife payment.

As long as you aren't married, she has to trust you. Trust is beautiful, right? As soon as you marry, you have to trust her. Why do women all want that so bad? Think about it. Married women can mistreat their husbands.