I'm referring to one of my good friends here in Campbellsville University (CU). The poor guy apparently had a very messed up summer break. He's a bit obsessive compulsive and he is quite prone to anxiety problems. From what he and his ex- tell me he was hit really hard for some reason and in the process had a huge falling out with his church and God in general. While I like to think I can be sensitive about this sort of stuff I also find myself getting very upset with him because he's not even trying to bounce back.
Instead he's broken up with this girl, who was his fiance of three years, and started some generally unhealthy living practices. She is also a good friend of mine and is likely the reason I ended up so upset with him. It's not like he's just ending "some relationship" but it's his first love. She's probably the best woman he or any other guy would likely find for a long time as well. By the way... his only excuse is that he simply wants to be able to do what he wants and this is it.
Less than forty-eight hours after the initial break-up he already has a rebound chick. Coincidentally enough her name is Trixie (slutty enough sounding name for ya?). All that I've heard about her before this stuff happened was that she is supposedly some sort of goodie-goodie who doesn't know what an orgasm is at the age of 21. I'm a bit skeptical about that one and the fact that that's all I ever heard about her before leaves me unsatisfied. Something tells me she's been putting on an act for an occasion just like this one.
So, back to the first girl (the one that has a good rep with me already). Ever since all of this went down another one of my buddies started hitting on her and she obviously doesn't want to have anything to do with him. People tell him to stop but he doesn't seem to care.
More recently I find myself becoming attracted to her as well but it's strange because I have absolutely no problem just letting her run about with all of this drama. I kind of want to interfere but after a three year relationship this is way too soon for someone to pick up the pieces and try to have a healthy relationship with either of them. Besides, what could I do to help either of them, with their legions of other friends already working to mend the tensions and such?
I'm definitely going to give this whole thing some time and just try to be the friend to them both that I think they need. A realistic friend who will just be friends no matter what. There aren't any words I can offer either side right now so I'll try and rely on my actions speaking loud enough for me. I sure hope they get back together because I don't want to even think about a relationship with someone yet. If they get back together I know I can easily mask any "more than friends" feelings toward her. And besides, I don't think I've totally let go of the things I did wrong when I was with Sarah (my ex-). I'm tired of only being good enough to be a boyfriend. This kid wants to know who he can settle down with. A.S.A.P.
Right. So, this here article was simply a way for me to get the thoughts rolling. Any insights from experience or simple knowledge to help calm my ever-wandering mind would be greatly appreciated.
Until then, Costlow over and out!